More opinions about men today and the tale of Tinderella

SO I wrote this while waiting for a tinder date who was running late - bad start!!

Regular readers and friends will know about my attitude towards traditional dating and coupledom so you know this is not normal for me. This particular blog is also a little more revealing than I usually like to be on here.

I decided to give this Tinder thing a whirl. After speaking to various friends and colleagues about their experiences with Tinder I thought "What the hell?". I have been on there for about a month and I am quickly starting to lose interest. It was great for a while, just like a game. If I was waiting for someone or on a bus, instead of playing Candy Crush you could 'play' on Tinder. My friends (married and single) were totally entertained by it when I showed them my account. It was FUN!

BUT with every guy I meet on here the more I am convinced that it can't be found in one neat package. Different men/people are good for different things.

So there will be huge generalizations here but there are 2 main camps of men. Most on tinder are after a "quick hook up". Easy, simple, no further explanation required but here is an amusing video I came across on Facebook about Tinderella.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bLoRPielarA

Some chat too eagerly giving the impression that they aren't used to talking to girls. Or they just have no idea how to chat at all!! And even after initial contact all you get to start a conversation in an uninspired "hello"?!

There are some genuine sweet guys on here. Their intentions are a little more complicated. But so are mine. Some keep chatting hoping they will still get the hook up. 

Some just send you nice messages like any friend might. And that intrigues me. 

Losing interest now.

If they are a little too keen and haven't asked you a single question about yourself - who you are, what you like, what you do? Then you kinda know what they are after and then make your choice whether to pursue it or not.

Some don't know how to have a conversation. Fair enough a text conversation may not be the best indication but I'd like to know people who can string a sentence together. If your text game is that bad then go old school and try using your phone as a phone and  call me!

And when they ask for your number a little too soon it usually leads to inappropriate photos landing in your text inbox. Hey - if that's your thing, go for it, who am I to judge?

Date  Scenario 1 - my summary was the more he talked, the less interested I became but he had really good wine so I stayed a little longer than I should had. Now I don't care how good your wine is - he was a bad kisser so NO thanks.

Date Scenario 2 - he was keen via text so I agreed to meet up. Oh dear! No thanks. I really should listen to my gut more.

Date Scenario 3 - The pretty boy who can communicate fine by text, it's working then you meet up and getting conversation out of him is like pulling teeth. Luckily knows how to kiss a girl and is absolutely gorgeous - but I'm not that shallow. 

So where is Mr tall dark and gorgeous, who knows how to kiss a girl, have a good conversation and appreciates a smart capable woman. Does it exist? Am I expecting too much for it all to be wrapped up in one neat package. Maybe...

Too many people I see settle for near enough is good enough thinkng they can change their partner. And I listen to them whinge about their lives and their partners! Just accept it! And I say this about all facets of life - you chose it, if you don't like it, if you are not happy then change it, do something about it. 

Anyhoo, all this 'research' has inspired me to start writing a new story, which is a good thing.