The Island

Do you remember the line in "Stand By Me" - I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone?

 

My 12 yr old friends were pretty special but I think I have been lucky enough to experience it again at 30.

When I was 30 - we had the ISLAND. We were all young and single and having fun. It was a bit like the show "Friends". We would have weekly adventures that would involve all of us, some weeks more focused on some characters and less on others, regular special guests and lots of bit parts and extras who you can't remember the names or faces of anymore. There were a few intergroup hook ups - some that lasted, some that didn't. It was during a surge of reality TV where people were voted off if they weren't liked enough. We developed an easy way to explain what someones relation to the group was by using this ISLAND analogy. There were the key players - we were citizens of the island. If you were a new friend to the island but we weren't sure about you yet - your visa was awaiting approval. Short term boy/girl friends - temporary residents. Friends who were in but we just didn't see as often - permanent residents who could come and go as they pleased. But if you crossed us, ba-bom - voted off and you were no longer welcome on our island.

The island over time - like the land masses on this earth that separated out to form the continents - has also spread out into satellite islands. Most are married, getting married or co-habitating with partners - they have their own little islands now. Me? I have my own little island and the best boat - coz I tend to be the one that goes and visits everyone. No one's island is quite big enough to get us all on it anymore and I can't remember the last time we all saw each other. I don't even know if that time was as special to them as it was to me. I like to believe it was coz I am still very close to them all, I just don't see them every week like we did back then.

I miss the times I had a close group of friends I could rely on. Now I have a little hermit shack on my little island. I visit the other islands from time to time, and have new networks of islands that I spend time on. Can't wait to see who I might meet at age 50!!